Yes, the women will be sacrificed

Many family members and rabbis insist that the women make things work, despite violence, verbal, and financial abuse. Not only that, but they support the husband in his gett refusal, expecting or even encouraging extortion. Why are we letting this happen?

 

In This Episode

• Alla’s situation gets worse, and she decides to leave.
• Even when women face abuse and violence, people they trust tell them to stay in their marriages. 
• If gett refusal is against Jewish law, why do community members encourage it to happen?
• When the Jewish community acts like this is normal, what does it do to the women?

Key Moments

• [00:00:29] The moment Alla decided to leave.
• [00:03:31] How Alla’s family reacted to her decision.
• [00:07:16] Rabbis encourage the women not to rock the boat.
• [00:10:53] Why rabbis sometimes put the interests of the community over the needs of agunot.
• [00:17:57] Why do the women think the Jewish community tolerates gett refusal?

 

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